Tourists, Children, You
Knowing When To Go, Leaving Behind, That Pope And Me!
This is the time of year that people change jobs. People got their end of year bonuses, some happy and some not so much. Younger people figure they better make the move now before the market gets flooded with even more bright young graduates. I have received many calls over the last few week from people either asking for advice about moving on to something new or telling me they have already resigned their current positions.
And just now it happened to me! My social media guru just resigned!!! He got a full time position (great news!) somewhere in Texas! Texas? Really?
All of these calls, resignations, and people contemplating moves reminded me of one of my favorite blog posts. I laugh whenever I think of it and I even featured it in my book.
Its worth repeating! If you missed it the first time, you might find it entertaining.
THE POPE AND ME. (February 14, 2013)
I have found the Pope’s resignation very interesting. I am surprised that I relate so much to his decision. Both of us made decisions to give up our day jobs and now we are both going through transitions. I am somewhat younger than the Pope, so there was no health reason that factored into my decision to give up my long time career. Could this be the only serious difference?
Both of us no longer have to sit through long meetings packed with too many people. Perhaps he got tired of and impatient with big bureaucracy and multiple decision makers?
I donated all of my business suits to a good cause that will use them for less fortunate young people just
starting their careers. You know that Benedict is not going to want to schlep around Rome or anywhere draped in all those layers. Surely he will be happy to pass all that garb to others. Can you imagine how
light he will feel once he removes all those schmattas?
Both of us had a desire to leave quietly. I wanted no celebrations of my retirement and happily it didn’t happen. I just read that the Pope wants to completely leave public life. Even today as write this, I am hibernating in the woods and in total contemplation of this issue and others of great importance. We know the Pope will spend endless hours also in quiet contemplation as he prays and meditates. I wonder if I should suggest some gentle Yoga as well?
We both loved our chosen careers and we were both fairly successful. Make no mistake, I realize that he achieved exponentially more than me. He got much further up the institutional (corporate) ladder, but look at how long he had to wait! Probably my proudest achievement and the only thing one could call “good,” was Mentoring the talent I encountered over my 32 years. Nonetheless, we both had a great ride although I never had a ride in anything even remotely as cool as the “Popemobile!” Well, I
did fly on the Concorde once.
Most importantly, neither of chose to leave our posts because we were running away from something. We both left happy and tankful. I think we share the desire to both let all those talented younger colleagues have their time to shine. In my last role, I was rich with people of such talent and there really was very little need for me.”
Son of a Postman
Lacking Motivation, Not Wasting Time, Oxygen Burglars
Readers have asked why I am not writing a daily blog post like I did for several years. The great news is that some miss my musings. The other good news is that I am busy with so many new endeavors that my blog thinking brain seems to have lost its rhythm. I don’t think this is a bad thing at all.
I contrast my current plethora of projects of interest to my former corporate life that had a plethora of projects but most were repetitive and had unreasonable deadlines. Worse was the fact that few people seemed to appreciate when you did get things done on time. Now, I am so grateful to get things done at a pace that allows for the end result to be the best I can do. Most things I get accomplished are appreciated by people who care. How can things be any better?
Would you really want me to write (or speak) just for the hell of it? Write blog posts just for the sake of keeping my ideas at the top of your mind? Why? I try to have something helpful to say. In the corporate world there are so many people who just speak for the sake of being heard. Its annoying and you know that you know many of these people! Oxygen Burglars……..and of course typically “Fluffers!!!”
Son of a Postman
What I Say, What Others Said, Keep Striving
I hope all of this makes sense and is helpful. I have lots of discussions with people giving them advice and talking about how I got to a good place. I also read lots of good things that people much wiser than I have said.
“People should treat others with honesty and respect. I am completely intolerant of those who are just mean. Why? Is it really necessary? I hope that you have as many super happy days that I have now. None of my days or thoughts are about what I left. Its all about about what I am moving toward.”
“Its no longer a conversation about overcoming deficiency. Its a conversation about potential.”
This quote is just so great and very descriptive of what I personally went through a few years ago. Lots of people kept telling me to be happy with what I had and not to bother striving for more. Any aspiration to try new things was discouraged. I was to do as I was told. Keep doing what you had done before. Thinking was not required. Others had better ideas. As did I!
Never let anyone tell you that you are not good enough or that your ideas are not important.
Son of a Postman
I’m no stranger to working at a large corporation, so I know that one of the biggest challenges working in this environment is communication. More people means less opportunity for direct communication and a greater reliance on technologies to communicate. This can make it harder to get things done, even when there are more people that can get to work.
I Ask For Feedback, I Like Feedback, My Latest Employee Has It Down
You’ve hear a lot from the man. You may have even read his book. But what is it like to work for Kevin Alger, the Son of the Postman himself?
NOT FROM THE SON OF A POSTMAN!
Avoid Running Away, Look Ahead, Sleep Better
A friend is leaving his current company after many years of working there. He was reasonably happy with his career there but he was presented with a great new opportunity. The great new role was sweetened with significantly higher compensation and a much more senior title. Quite the step up! Perhaps his current employer could have more frequently hugged him? Maybe they could have better mapped out his future opportunities?
It is widely known that people typically don’t leave a long term employer solely for more money. There are so many factors that go into satisfying and retaining employees. Perhaps this is a topic for another post.
You may have to stick it out for a bit longer in the short term, but overall running “to” rather than “from” will keep you happier in the long term. Consider only opportunities where you believe you will be content and challenged. Avoid looking back at the place where you were unhappy.
Party, Party, And A Little Chatter!
Last month I celebrated the launch of my book Son of a Postman: Delivering Straight Talk on Managing, Fluffers, Bullies and the Rest of the Team with launch parties in London and New York. Thank you so much to everyone who came on both sides of the Atlantic! There will be several other launch parties in New York and there is one scheduled for April 23rd in Philadelphia. They really are more about the party than they are about my book!
“Among many books on leadership “Son of a Postman” by Kevin Alger really stands out: its focus is not on how to become a great manager but on how to make one’s employees successful, this is what a real leader does.”
Most Popular “Type,” Comes In Many Species, Don’t Get Bagged
I’ve talked a lot about the six “TYPES” of people that are featured in my book, but there is always more to say. I believe that these six Types cover most people that you will encounter as a colleague, teacher, coach, or leader. Some types come in many varieties and definitely worth noting.
Today I want to get into a specific kind of “Fluffer,” the Fluffer as a “Bagger.” This variety of Fluffer uses their communication skills to sell a colleague something undesirable. They act the part of the used-car salesman trumping up what they know is sub-par. You can think about it as a double-cross or bait and switch.
After she had finished her endorsement and recommendation that I happily take this guy on
my team, I dropped my knowledge about the underachiever to her. She turned all shades of red. It was definitely a “gotcha” moment.”
I think I am proud to say that no one has ever accused my of being a bagger or a smooth talker!